Father's Day 2014

Sunday, June 15th, 2014

Father's Day - Central Baptist Church 2014

Text: Ephesians 5:17-6:4

FAMILY RESPONSIBILITIES

INTRODUCTION:

In a society which is becoming increasingly secular in which we are seeing the individual roles of the father, the mother, and the children being muddled, it is important that from time to time we remind ourselves of how God intended the family to function. We know that any attempt to alter God's blueprint for the family is doomed to failure. Therefore, as we study Ephesians 5:17-6:4 we want to show the responsibilities of the fathers, mothers, and children toward each other within the family unit.

Ephesians 5:22-33 - 22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

Ephesians 6:1-4 - 1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. 2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) 3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. 4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

I. THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF THE WIFE TOWARD HER HUSBAND - Ephesians 5:22-33

1. The wife is to submit herself unto her husband as unto the Lord.

Ephesians 5:22 - Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

Submit means subject yourself to his authority or obey

The wife has a real problem. How does she submit herself to someone who is trying to submit himself to her? How does she obey someone who is trying to obey her or to someone who is thoughtless or inconsiderate of her? It puts her in an awkward situation.

2. The wife is to be subject to her own husband in everything.

Ephesians 5:24 - Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

3. The wife is to reverence her husband.

Ephesians 5:33 - Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

reverence = fear, respect, stand in awe

Again the wife has a real problem. How does she respect someone who treats her like trash, who thinks only of himself, who is not man enough to pick up his own socks or to clean up after himself? It puts her in a very awkward situation.

II. THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF THE HUSBAND TOWARD HIS WIFE - Ephesians 5:22-33

1. The husband is to be the head of the wife.

Ephesians 5:23 - For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

The husband who provides godly, spiritual leadership for his wife will make it a whole lot easier for his wife to submit to him as head of the home than the husband who provides no godly, spiritual leadership for his wife.

2. The husband is to love his wife.

Ephesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Love is the sort of love which gives itself on behalf of someone else without expecting anything in return.

3. The husband is to give himself on behalf of his wife.

Ephesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

4. The husband is to nourish his wife.

Ephesians 5:29 - For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

Nourish = feed

5. The husband is to cherish his wife.

Ephesians 5:29 - For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

Cherish = to hold her dear, value her highly, treat her with tenderness and affection

The husband who loves his wife and gives himself on behalf of her, who provides for her, and who values her highly and treats her with tenderness and affection will make it a whole lot easier for his wife to respect him than the man who loves only himself, doesn't do a thing for her, and treats her like trash.

6. The husband is to leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife.

Ephesians 5:31 - For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

The man who has not grown up to the point where he can't separate himself from his mommy and his daddy will never be able to provide the sort of leadership for his wife that she needs.

III. THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF THE CHILDREN TOWARD THEIR PARENTS - Ephesians 6:1-3

1. The children are to obey their parents.

Ephesians 6:1 - Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.

2. The children are to honor their parents.

Ephesians 6:2-3 - (2) Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) (3) That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.

IV. THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF THE FATHERS TOWARD THEIR CHILDREN - Ephesians 6:4

1. The father is to stop provoking his children to wrath.

Ephesians 6:4 - And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Provoke = make angry

2. The father is to bring up his children in the nurture of the Lord.

Ephesians 6:4 - And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Bring . . . up = rear them, be bring them up, be rearing them up suggesting continuous action. It is a long process.

Nurture = upbringing, training, instruction

Of the Lord = from the Lord, i.e. the Lord is the source of the nurture and admonition.

3. The father is to bring up his children in the admonition of the Lord.

Ephesians 6:4 - And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Admonition = instruction, warning

CONCLUSION:

Even though we may be older, all of us fall into the category of children. Let's be careful to honor our parents, and if you are still a minor child living at home, you need to be obeying your parents as well. Wives, you need to be submissive to your husbands and properly respectful of them. Husbands, you need to be loving your wives and providing Biblical leadership for them. Parents, you need to be bringing your children up Scripturally.

All of these responsibilities are awesome; yet, we must strive to do them and to teach our children to do so.

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